“Where there is hatred, let me sow love. Where there is injury, pardon. Where there is doubt, faith. Where there is despair, hope. Where there is darkness, light. Where there is sadness, joy … grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console to be understood, as to understand; to be loved, as to love; for it is in giving that we receive, it is in pardoning that we are pardoned.”
–Prayer of Peace by St. Francis of Assisi
“A good deed is one that brings a smile of joy to the face of another.” – the Prophet Muhammed
In order to be a good person, one must do right by others. Sometimes, the road to being better people is paved with good deeds. Each day, try to go out of your way to do something nice for someone else, even if it is just a compliment to a stranger, not ignoring the homeless person by our subway stop, or dropping a long held grudge. Nothing good comes from holding s grudge or trying to get even. We should be interested in the plight and triumphs of our neighbors. By bringing a smile to the face of another with a good deed, perhaps we will bring a smile to our own faces as well.
This kindness note is in response to a recent controversy caused by a grocery store chain by selling pre-peeled oranges, and their decision to stop selling said oranges due to negative reactions to a viral photo of the oranges.
“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.” -Marcus Aurelius
We should never be too quick to judge something just because it seems wasteful or hard for us to understand from our own vantage point.
There are always many different perspectives from which to approach an issue or controversy. Some of us lack the dexterity to peel an orange or cut a pineapple and having access to prepared fruits and vegetables is more affordable than hiring someone to cut it for us.
Some of us lack the energy due to physical or mental health issues to go out and get our own groceries so we use new apps and services to deliver things for us so that we may lead as normal of a life as we can. Some of us need help with different things than other people. Not all disabilities can be seen and not all who are disabled appear ill or in need, even though they are.
The person who appears well off in front of you at the store who used EBT could have been shopping for an elderly or disabled neighbor who couldn’t shop for themselves, or they may have just been dressed nicely because they take pride in their appearance and don’t care what someone behind them in line at the store thinks.
Sometimes the person using a handicapped placard who doesn’t appear visibly handicapped is indeed suffering to walk just the few steps to the entrance, and they just don’t want to show it. Before we judge things, we should stop and think about all the other things that could be going on that we cannot see or conceive because our lives have caused us to have a different vantage point.
As humans, we should not have to pretend to be someone we are not in order to understand those who have different life experiences than we do, nor should we physically try to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes to try and understand them. However, before we judge, we should stop and think how a different experience could impact our conclusion on an issue and empathize with those who are not in our same situation.
Thank you to the author at The Crippled Scholar for this enlightening essay for opening our eyes to another perspective, and helping us to see depth in the things we judge so quickly.
It is better to judge yourself against a standard set by you than against a standard set by someone else. Compare yourself to only you, what you have accomplished as a person, and what you one day hope to achieve. Your confidence will shine and you will be a leader for others to whom your positive actions influence.
Try this confidence booster:
Every day, practice this. Wherever you are or what ever you are doing, take a moment and state: “I am a better person today than I was yesterday.”
“Three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind.”
― Henry James
No matter how many times you’ve been told “nice guys/girls finish last” do not believe it. Genuinely kindhearted people who project their positive attitudes are the true leaders for the people they encounter. Kind hearts and actions towards others inspire hope and potential in those with whom we see both momentarily and in every day interactions.
Being kind to everyone, not just your peers, your social or professional “superiors,” or your management, can make you both a better person and more respected within your community or organization. If you want to know the true nature of a person, ask their secretary or assistant their true opinion, observe their interactions with waitstaff, gauge the respect they show for their significant other, or note the attitude they project when someone asks for help or assistance. The ones you think most highly of are probably the ones who are regarded as kind and encouraging.
The size of a person’s bank account (great or small), the school they attended, the job they have, and the disingenuous messages they preach do not determine a successful person. However, the kindness in their heart, manifested by the love, respect, and encouragement they show for others does. We are only as successful as the amount of positivity we influence, as the amount of respect that we show for everyone, and the amount of greatness we encourage in others. We are only as successful as we are kind.
Only as great as we aspire can we be.